Daughter says mom does 'less work' because she's a 'lady' — then dad conducts brilliant quiz to prove her wrong

Children often make assumptions about a person's work based on what they hear and see around them. At that point, if their assumption is not going in the right direction, then it becomes essential for parents to debunk some of those beliefs. A dad did something similar when his daughter thought that her mom did less work "because she is a lady." The dad asked his daughter multiple questions and explained to her why he disagreed with her thoughts. Dad and licensed therapist Kier Gaines – who goes by @kiergaines on Instagram – shared the conversation on the platform.

"Would you rather be mommy or daddy for a day?" Gaines asked his daughter. "Mommy, because she does less work," his 7-year-old daughter answered. He immediately disagreed with what she said. His daughter repeated that, in her "opinion," she did. He asked the girl to explain what made her think that. "Because she's a lady," she responded. "What makes you think ladies do less work? Give an example." She simply said, "I just think it." Gaines went on, "Ladies do a lot of work. They don't always get credit for the work that they do. You are a girl, don't you work hard?" She pointed out that she did work hard in school. "Ladies are just as capable as boys are, right?" She agreed with her dad, who again asked if she thought he did more work than her mom.

"That's crazy. I do not," Gaines told the girl. "Mommy is washing your clothes. Every event that we make it to? It is because Mommy put it on the calendar. Your Christmas wishlist? Who do you think thought of that? Not me." He pointed out that her mom also ordered all of her clothes for her. "Who did your hair this morning?" The daughter remarked, "Mommy." The dad humphed and rested his case there. "They always show doing hair, playing dolls and having cutesy dates when it comes to being a girl dad. They never show you the other side." Gaines went on and added how there was so much more to it than that and how he was "never going to let these dependents play in [his wife] Noémie Gaines' (@noemiegaines) face like that."

"There are a few larger conversations here about gender themes and social messaging, but I'll spare you the dissertation," Gaines expressed. He concluded by saying, "She's 7 and I'm glad that she feels comfortable standing on an opinion that I don't agree with. Love that for her, but nah!" Many people shared their thoughts in the comments. @tobeblessed3 wrote, "Supporting your spouse in front of your kids is so important, verbally and non-verbally."

@easilymoved_ commented, "For her to grow up in this particular family and this particular home and still have these thoughts and beliefs just tells you how deafeningly loud those messages are from the outside world." @nicholleautumn remarked, "First of all, I'm gonna say, he allowed his daughter to not only have her own opinion, but allowed her to disagree with him. Then, instead of telling her that she's wrong and to be respectful, he respected his daughter and engaged in further conversation and questions. At the exact same time, uplifting his wife."

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