Mom has the perfect response to 'mean girl' sharing 'benefits to bullying' in school: 'Her thinking is dangerous'

Bullying is a serious concern at schools across the world and it is never pleasant for someone at the receiving end of it. Although quite a few bullies realize their mistakes as they grow up, many don't understand the impact of their actions well into their adulthood. A former "mean girl," Liana, shared the "benefits to bullying" in a now-deleted TikTok video that sparked strong reactions from people on the internet. In response to it, a mom named Gabi, who goes by @gabzilla.rawr on the platform, shared why bullying should never be encouraged in a spot-on clip.

"I think bullying is something that has to happen when you are young," Liana can be seen saying in her clip. "I've always felt this way and I will probably continue to think this way." She suggests that if someone is being bullied, they might want to "stick up" for themselves and "learn to have more confidence." In a stitch, Gabi revealed how the creator had "proudly" admitted that she was a "mean girl" in high school. "What really stood out to me is how she says that there are benefits to bullying," the mom shared. "That bullies in high school and middle school end up being more successful in adulthood." Liana had backed up her claim by saying that "it's giving evolution."

The mom, like many others, disagreed. "Now, I have access to scholarly articles and I don't see anything about the benefits of being bullied," Gabi expressed. "We are not coming on the internet and encouraging people to be bullies." The other things that stood out about the woman in the video were phrases like "this is how I feel," "this is my opinion," and "it's never gonna change." The mom added, "That is just a fixed mindset. Saying things like, 'Well, this is just how I am, you can't change me,' that is a sign of emotional immaturity." Gabi pointed out that the woman didn't have the "self-awareness" to "want to improve or change." She highlighted how victims of bullying can feel the impact of it for years.

Gabi shared that she was fortunate that her middle school bullies reached out to her and apologized many years later. "Let's continue to celebrate kindness," she emphasized. The caption read, "Be kind. People are going through it." Around 19.2% of students between the ages of 12 and 18 enrolled in grades 6 to 12 in the country experienced bullying, according to the 2021-22 school crime supplement published by the National Center for Education Statistics at the Institute of Education Sciences. Among the group, only around 44.2% notified an adult about what they were going through. Bullying can cause feelings of isolation, rejection, exclusion and despair, as well as contribute to depression and anxiety, per StopBullying.gov.

People shared their experiences with bullying in the comments section and expressed why they totally disagreed with the woman's perspective. @nicegirlqueeny expressed, "You're so right. Her type of thinking is dangerous to other people and even to herself. Bullying is wrong, like just leave people alone." @its.ashlyn24 wrote, "I still look in the mirror and remember things bullies said to me in middle/high school and I’m in my mid 20s now." @hijk.elle.mnop commented, "I was bullied in elementary school 10 to 14 years ago and I still feel small and have trouble believing that someone likes me." @kiankyle remarked, "Right, People do NOT NEED any encouragement to bully, it happens enough all on its own. Well said, 'celebrate kindness.'"

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