Parents wanted autistic 20-year-old to feel independent — their solution is receiving applause

Each parent dreams of seeing their kids become independent, grow into their own identity and become strong and grounded individuals. However, for people with autism, this idea is not just a fantasy. It requires patience and work, which has the potential to work out eventually. 20-year-old Bobby was diagnosed with autism at a very young age, per Newsweek. His parents came up with a creative solution to help him start in life, and it’s receiving much applause. Bobby’s mom, Cheri Smith, noted that her son was diagnosed with autism at the age of two. "He also has an intellectual disability, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and a seizure disorder,” she added.

Dealing with these and ensuring her son gets a decent life and childhood was "challenging but manageable.” They refused to let autism dictate how he spent the rest of his life. When the lockdown struck, Bobby’s condition became unmanageable. The family experienced much stress, and with no breaks from each other, things were even more chaotic. After speaking to doctors and others, the parents were suggested residential treatment. However, they were not up to part with their son in that manner. "It just didn't feel like the right move for him, for us,” Cheri said.

As the parents pondered how to help themselves and their son, the idea of an RV or tiny home came to their minds. After weeks of hard work, the couple was able to design a small space in their backyard that specifically catered to Bobby’s needs. On his Instagram page (@bobbystinyhouseworld), the many efforts of the family to create this adjoining home inspired many. Bobby had his very own space to spend time, sleep, try out chores and even learn. Over time, the duo realized that their son was getting a healthy exposure to independence by living in the RV. With his parents right next door, no one had to worry about how he managed.

"Bobby began trying new foods. He went from a diet of mostly chicken nuggets and fries to eating fresh fruits, vegetables, and a well-rounded variety of meats,” the delighted parents observed. They even noticed that his behavior and thought process changed much by getting that little time to himself to figure things out. "He's lived in his tiny house for nine months now with no meltdowns," Cheri said. According to Autism Speaks, the best way to build an autistic child’s independence is to practice simple techniques like Bobby’s parents did. These include assigning simple chores, practicing money, self-care and leisure skills, keeping a schedule, getting a gist of work skills and so on.

It may seem little, but it creates a great impact in the long run. Cheri and her husband, Bob Smith, documented the journey for fellow parents who have similar dreams for their kids with special needs. One of the videos captured just how life goes with Bobby in the RV. He simply walked into his parents’ home, greeted his mum, and before he could catch up with her, he rushed to grab some ice. "I just knew that there were so many families out there that are struggling like ours," the mom said.

Though it seemed like a very simple thing to the outside world, it was a relieving hope to the family. "It is just a glimpse into a family doing an everyday normal activity. For us, it was monumental,” the mom said. @jturnich said, “What a wonderful solution to have him near, but give him independence.” @jasong_452 added, “You have my profound admiration and respect for how you've overcome the challenges life has presented to your family.”

You can follow Bobby (@bobbystinyhouseworld) on Instagram for more knowledge on autism.