Wedding guests share 10 things bride and groom do that they just can’t tolerate— it’s a shocker

Couples want nothing more than to have their wedding day be perfect. This means getting everything they dreamed of checked on the list while organizing their big day. However, another crucial sector at weddings is the guests and ensuring the hospitality is flawless is the onus of the couple and their families. The bride and groom prioritize what they want on their big day whether it's a destination wedding or an activity for guests. However, there are quite a few of these that people despise and steer clear of. A wedding can't go well if the guests are not happy and enjoying themselves. So, it's important to take note of their preferences while making arrangements. 

u/ChekMoney66 shared a post on Reddit asking guests to voice their opinions on what they really dislike at wedding parties. With over 1500 responses, people didn't hold back from giving honest and upfront feedback. Right from color schemes to bad food, guests pointed out common wedding trends that need to go. Their opinions offered a third-party insight to figure out how guests can have a good time and make the wedding one to remember and acknowledge. These top 10 suggestions are ones you can take note of should you ever find yourself as a host for a wedding. 

1. Overhyped Decor 

"Expecting that your 'most important day of my life!' is everyone's most important day of their life. For the rest of us, it's just a party. We don't care about your color scheme. Feed us and give us some drinks." -u/drunkenknitter "I don’t remember any of the decor or odds and ends of any wedding I’ve been to. I remember the fun and the food." -u/cheesebmg

2. Destination Weddings

"Might be an unpopular opinion, but destination weddings are the worst. You lose days of your leave or lose money from work. Spend hundreds, if not thousands, on flights and accommodation, and yeah, you’re still expected to bring a gift. It’s hands down the most selfish way to get married." -u/CrystalQueen3000

3. Bouquet Toss

"I’ve hidden in the bathroom at so many weddings while I waited for the bouquet toss to be over. A friend got married earlier this year and didn’t do it. Best reception ever because I didn’t have to worry about slipping away at the exact moment." -u/fiddlemethis123. "For me, it’s not that catching it would bother me. It’s that I’m over 30 and unmarried while most others who would be in the unmarried group are in their early 20s or the group is just getting smaller and smaller as the bride’s peers all get married." -u/fiddlemethis123

4. Expensive Gifts

"What a couple spends on a wedding should not be influenced by the gifts they hope/expect to receive and the reverse is true as well; guests should not feel obligated to spend more than their relationship/personal budget dictates just because a couple splashes out."  -u/munkieshynes

5. Extra Expenses

"Useless extravagances at your reception. Forget about such things as butterfly or dove releases. Photo booths and candy buffets aren't worth the extra money they cost. I also believe we need to be respectful of our attendants' budgets. Bridesmaid's dresses can be reasonably priced. You don't need a group spa day, professional makeup and hair or weekend getaways for bachelor and bachelorette. Weddings cost too much as is." -u/Bebe_Bleau

6. All Talk, All Show, No Food

"Having an all-day wedding but skimping on the food. I went to a wedding which started at 12 pm and finished at 11 pm. The portions of the sit-down meal were tiny. They didn't have evening food, only the cake. It was at a really upmarket venue, so they obviously tried to cut costs by reducing the food, but nobody was expecting that and everyone was starving all day." -u/Little-Comfortable26

7. Too Much Smooching

"I hate the tradition of everyone clinking their glasses and making the newlyweds kiss. I found it cringe at my own wedding. People kept doing it at my friend's wedding during dinner and I'm just like, 'Let the poor couple eat their meal. They'll kiss plenty today!'" -u/whosthisdork

8. Haphazard Seating

"Don’t feed us, it’s okay. Snacks are fine, but I don’t want to have a sit-down dinner with people I don’t know. I’m there to support you and your big day and I don’t want cold food that I didn’t get to pick sitting next to someone I don’t know when the person I brought is sitting ten seats away. It’s miserable." -u/yesiknowimsexy

9. Monotonous Music

"Stop playing the same top 40 music. I’d rather you play your favorite Juggalo music than hear 'Sweet Caroline' one more time. Doesn’t anyone like anything other than Lizzo and Pitbull at their wedding? The wedding should be about the couple sharing themselves and what they like with everyone. I’d love to go to a wedding with personality, even if it’s completely different than my own. Then at least it’s more of an experience." -u/theroomnoonegoesin

10. Stretched and Delayed Ceremonies

"People need to start being actually realistic about how long each thing takes, and then add a buffer to that for what the real flow is. Went to a wedding this summer. The ceremony was outside, on a super hot day, and everyone was sitting in the sun, facing the sun. In all, everyone was outside without shade for 4 hours when you factor in showing up before the ceremony as well. It was a very hurry-up-and-wait situation." -u/Legitimate-Chart-289