Woman agreed to give up her dog after fiancé’s ultimatum — then he returned with another list of demands and got a response he didn’t expect
Relationships require compromise and adjustments from both partners to work. Problems arise when one person is expected to make all the sacrifices while the other refuses to meet them halfway. A woman who goes by u/Kindly_Demand3214 shared a Reddit post on Sunday, October 25, 2026, explaining how she was given an ultimatum to choose between her dog and her partner. Unwillingly, she decided to give her dog away, but while she was in the process, her fiancé showed up with an unexpected list of demands she had to comply with if she wanted to marry him.
The woman was given the ultimatum a few months ago and had until the end of October to find another place for her beloved pet. During that time, her fiancé would change his mind about the situation multiple times before returning to the same decision. Even after she decided to make such a big sacrifice, things barely got better. On a day off, when she said she'd clean their home since she had time, he snapped. It seemed like it was one of their usual fights, but this time he was angrier. He asked her to leave, and after she pleaded with his mom, he called her back and gave her a list. “Get rid of the dog, keep the apartment clean, don’t clean so much and sit with him more, cook better, don’t treat him like a king.”
The woman was confused by the absurdity of his demands, but he was insistent. When they argued before, he turned the blame on her, complaining that she was difficult and unorganized, among other things. His inconsistency about his decision regarding her made her doubt their relationship. Eventually, she offered to start afresh. She suggested moving into different homes and trying to build their foundation from scratch. Her idea was to find common ground, but he was still indecisive.
Ultimately, when she told him to walk away if he couldn't keep his promises, he did just that instead of fighting for their relationship. Commenters immediately knew what to advise her as soon as she mentioned the ultimatum. u/murgatory wrote, “If he's placing conditions like the dog, there will always be something else wrong with you.” u/redrosebeetle added, “Your dog deserves better.” u/CommaGirl remarked, “This is a wake-up call to love yourself more.” The person who made the post clarified in the comments that she stood her ground instead of crawling back to her ex.
The moment a relationship becomes a display of one partner overpowering the other through extreme rules and rigidity, it is a warning to rethink where things are headed. In another instance, a woman was baffled to receive terms and conditions ahead of her date with a man who claimed he wanted to be “upfront.” Among his non-negotiables were that she pay for her share of the bill after leaving the restaurant rather than arguing to split it at the table, dress according to his preferences, and use perfumes, makeup, and other add-ons as per his instructions and restrictions. The woman expected him to share simple boundaries or information about the rest of the evening, but instead received absurd non-negotiables that made her rethink the meeting altogether.
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