Woman refused to attend her estranged father's funeral—then discovered he left her everything in his will
A child needs their parent and family growing up. To have that nurturing and affectionate love is crucial, especially when kids are growing and navigating through life. A woman who goes by u/throwaway61838290108 on Reddit revealed that she had a rocky relationship with her father all her life. When he passed away, she refused to go to his funeral but discovered he left her all his inheritance. However, people supported the woman’s decision to stay away from her dad as money couldn’t cover the loss of love and the time her father’s absence took.
The woman explained that her dad left when she was 10 and showed up only when he needed “money or a favor.” “He remarried, had two other kids, and basically acted like I didn’t exist,” she added. At the age of 18, she made the decision to cut all ties. “He tried reaching out a few times over the years, but it always felt forced, so I ignored him,” the post explained. Things were so tough that even when the woman’s mother passed away, her dad offered no kind of support or love. “It solidified my decision to cut him off for good,” she remarked.
A month ago, the woman learned her dad had passed away unexpectedly. When she was asked to join for the funeral, she refused. “I didn’t feel anything—no grief, no sadness, just... nothing. Why should I show up to mourn someone who wasn’t there for me when I needed him?” she wrote. It was added that she had “made peace” with his absence. “A week after the funeral, I got a call from a lawyer. Turns out, my dad left a will, and in it, he left everything to me—his house, his savings, his car, everything. His wife and kids got absolutely nothing,” she explained.
The woman was confused and further learned that her dad “tried to make amends and felt guilty about abandoning me so he wanted to ‘make things right.’” After much thought, the woman decided to hand over all the inheritance to her step-siblings and their mother. “What my dad did was messed up. I wouldn’t want to leave them in the position my dad left my mother and I,” she wrote. She felt “conflicted,” but people assured her that forgiveness and love could not be bought at a price.
u/DocButtStuffinz wrote, "This speaks volumes about your character. I would suggest you tell them exactly what you're saying here—that what your dad did was messed up and you wouldn't want them to be in the position your dad left you in when you were younger." u/PebblesmomWinscosin7 said, "I’m really sorry this all happened, starting with him being an absent dad and the sadness and pain he caused you and your mom. I just want to say bravo you for setting a healthy boundary in your life and putting yourself first when it came to him later in life. I hope your heart finds peace with all of this."
