Bride-to-be lauded for her bold response after fiancé makes harsh remark about her neck scar in front of his family
When two people fall in love, they are expected to love every part of their partner. All the good and the bad make a person who they are and couples should wholly love each other, embracing both aspects. However, a bride-to-be, u/Upstairs_Graden2353, revealed that her fiancé claimed that he loved her but had been constantly making her insecure about a scar she had. When he repeatedly pestered her about it and kept making her feel conscious, she decided to take a stand for herself and put an end to the comments. “I have a scar on the side of my neck. It's been there for over 6 years and no one has commented on it or made any negative remarks about it,” the woman noted.
She added that her to-be husband would constantly poke fun at her by commenting about her scar “and make it seem as flirting.” “For instance, complaining he has kissed every part of my body except my neck because of the scar and how the scar ‘looked like a kid messed up such a great art (referring to my look),’” she recalled. Despite being told that she did not like the remarks involving her scar, he continued the behavior and “insisted he loves me anyway.” With their wedding approaching soon, the couple and their families were engrossed in discussing the big day. The duo were excited to get married to each other and even spoke about how they’re eagerly awaiting.
“He laughed and said, ‘I'm marrying you minus the scar,’” the bride-to-be noted. Stunned by his remark, the woman got upset and left the room. “We had a big fight and he kept saying I was being a drama queen and that he said ‘nothing wrong,’” she added. Taken aback by his mindset, she decided to consider postponing the wedding. Even when she made this decision, her fiancé and future mother-in-law blamed her. “His mom said that I'm obviously ‘traumatized’ by my scar to let it ruin my marriage with her son and suggested therapy. She told me that the scar was the issue, not her son who loves me as I am and chose me to be his wife,” the woman wrote.
The bride-to-be wondered whether her response was justified but also recalled that her friends constantly mentioned that such comments were not okay. “My girlfriends have previously said that my fiancé shouldn't even be bringing up the scar like that,” she said. People in the comments supported her decision and commended her for taking a stand for herself. They added that she should not be putting up with someone who makes her feel insecure.
u/punkinbunz said, “The fact that they're making it sound like he's doing you a favor by marrying you even though you have a scar is the hugest red flag.” u/FloMoJoeBlow added, “Rather than postpone it, I would call it off. Clearly you deserve better than this jackass and his family.” u/onaplinth remarked, “You can do so much better than this shallow, abusive loser.” u/AdExpensive1624 said, “That’s hurtful, disrespectful and calling attention to something that is very much a part of you in a negative way.”
