Gen X woman started family at 47—she shares poignant reflection on why it's still worth it

Everyone has a unique way of life they strive to live. The standard put forth by society is to study, work, and marry at an early stage of life so you can have kids and then grow old as a family. However, for different individuals, life looks different. Women, especially, choose to become mothers at a much older age for varied reasons in recent times. While the majority suggest that this is a risky and colorless life, a Gen X mom defended otherwise. Ch-a Mosley–who goes by @pregnantoverforty on Instagram–became a mom in her 40s and has zero regrets. She shared a noteworthy reflection on why motherhood in the latter years is as fruitful as at younger ages.

Mosley mentioned that she was deeply in love in her 20s. Like many young women, she believed she had found her husband by the age of 21. “Then he cheated on me and broke me into pieces,” she noted. She spent her 20s dating “beneath” herself as she was influenced by society. It was only in her 30s that she finally began to find herself and grow. “I worked hard on myself spiritually and mentally in my 30s and that’s when I started to get my mind right,” Mosley noted. After battling the stereotypical views of society and finding herself first, it was in her 30s that Mosley truly realized her worth and value. 

“However, I did not find a man who appreciated my worth till I was 44,” she remarked. "The beauty of my journey is that I grew, I learned, and I blossomed. A woman needs to allow herself the space to evolve and have no regrets about the process," she said, per Newsweek. Looking back, she is delighted to have worked on herself first to acquire the kind of peace and happiness she enjoys today. Mosley is proud to be the best version of herself, and that came from a wait, an introspection and keeping the hope alive. "I am truly a new woman. I have more love in my heart for others than I ever could've imagined in my 20s,” the mom remarked. 

The mom’s love life truly began at a supposedly later age of 44, and a few years later, at the age of 46, the woman decided to start a family. "I was 44 and he was 42—I hope women remain encouraged by this. There are good men out there, and you can meet when you least expect it," she said. Mosley added that despite her older age, she conceived naturally and it changed her perspective. She mentioned that having a healthy mind, body and spirit can contribute to a normal pregnancy, even in one’s 40s.

"You need each of those humming well if you wish to have success with pregnancy later in life. On a practical level, I heavily advise finding a functional medicine doctor who can test your hormones and vitamin levels. Know where those stand so you can fix any deficiencies ahead of time," she said. People in the comments shared their experiences. @doctormonikaa said, "I first became a mom at 47, too! Bravo to you.” @kellychavers added, “I needed to hear this. I dated beneath my values in my 20s and went on a spiritual journey in my 30s. Now in my 40s, and haven’t found my partner. There is hope.”

You can follow Ch-a Mosley (@pregnantoverforty) on Instagram for more content on pregnancy and parenting over 40 years.