His girlfriend’s dad forced them to break up because he worked retail instead of going to college — 11 years later, he apologized for his mistake
It’s rare to find people acknowledging their mistakes and apologizing for them. When Reddit user u/Tough-Funny4394 was 19, he dated a woman whose father hated him. He often mocked him for choosing to do a retail job over going to college. The dad was convinced he was right and pushed his daughter to break up with the young man. However, eleven years later, he apologized for his mistake. But one question he asked the man made him think about something profound. On October 15, 2025, he shared how the encounter made him realize the weight he had been carrying all these years.
My girlfriend’s dad apologized to me years after breaking us up
by u/Tough-Funny4394 in TrueOffMyChest
The man was 19 when he dated the girl. Her father was against their relationship. After pressure from her dad, the couple broke up and never saw each other again. Eleven years later, the dad ran into the man, now grown up, at a hardware shop and instantly recognized him. To his surprise, he immediately apologized for his mistake and for ruining their relationship. He revealed that his daughter had married someone "successful," which unfortunately ended badly. However, before leaving, the elderly man asked him, "I was wrong about you. I hope you found happiness?" While the heartbroken man wanted to say more, he held back and just said, "I did." However, the strange and unexpected encounter made him realize the weight he had been carrying for over a decade.
According to research scholar Hershey H Friedman, remorse is a skill that allows one to grow and evolve as an individual. The researcher noted that an apology can repair relationships that have long been thought to be dead. Apologies are also seen as a way of accepting one's mistakes and moving forward with less guilt, as it not only provides closure to the other person but lets one forgive themselves. "The cost of an apology is small, a loss of a bit of pride," the researcher noted. By letting his pride go and acknowledging the damage he had caused, the girl's father came clean to the man, and this ability to own up to one's mistakes and provide a genuine apology can heal, as it did for the dad and the former boyfriend.
Soon after the post went viral, many users shared their thoughts on it. u/suwushi wrote, "I finally apologized to a family member for being so mean during my teenage years, and when I was pregnant, two days later, they died. I think about it so often, and how much more my grief would've weighed on me had I not done it. Saying sorry and being a bit embarrassed or having a knock to your ego is so much better than letting regret and sorrow swallow you whole," u/akshetty2994 commented. "He learned a very hard lesson, one that unfortunately she had to go through as well. I cannot imagine how random that was. Even then, you both needed that after so long." u/Abject-Parking3161 shared, "I stopped communicating with my dad because he was trying to do the same thing with me. I stayed with the man I love, and it’s the best decision."
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