Husband did the one thing wife 'asked him not to' while feeding their baby — internet says her response is justified
When it comes to caring for infants, parents and caretakers need to be extremely careful. Right from the way they are held to the way their bottles and clothing are washed, some specifications and rules need to be followed. The babies are too delicate and can easily catch infections and viruses and parents must take utmost care about everything. A new mom–who goes by u/Alternative_Site_368 on Reddit–revealed that when her husband went against her requests and microwaved their baby’s milk, she was enraged. She had a bold response and many people justified and supported her reaction.
The new mom mentioned that she was resuming work after her maternity leave. She left the 3-month-old in the care of her husband and it was a “stressful and tearful” period for her. The mom further noted that she had been making efforts to stock up on breastmilk for her baby. “It’s taken an insane amount of effort—collecting milk, eating well, staying hydrated, dealing with the physical toll—all to make sure she has what she needs,” she explained. Since she made strenuous efforts to arrange for the breastmilk, she knew the importance of handling and feeding it rightly to the infant.
“I showed my husband exactly how to thaw the milk in warm water. We even practiced it together,” she noted. However, she cautioned her husband about one thing specifically. “I made it very clear that microwaving breastmilk was not an option as the CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention) warns against it due to hot spots and potential nutrient loss,” the mom explained. The dad "agreed" to be cautious about feeding the baby. However, when the weekend came to an end, the mom noticed her husband taking the bottle out of the microwave. When she learned he’d been doing the same thing all the while, she felt “disrespected” and “started crying.”
“You can never microwave breastmilk. I told you this,” she impulsively remarked. “He had literally done the one thing I asked him not to do. Instead of acknowledging it, he got defensive,” she said. Her husband rudely replied, “Why do you always have these crazy f**king reactions?” He justified his ignorance by saying, “Google said it was fine,” “I read a study that said it doesn’t lose nutrients unless overheated and I used a thermometer to make sure I didn’t overheat it.” The mom felt that all her efforts to get the breast milk that was healthy for her baby went in vain.
“His arrogance that he thinks he knows better than the CDC and literally every source is pissing me off. He went against my wishes, disregarded my effort and then doubled down when I was already emotionally drained,” she shared. The mom went crazy after the incident and was not ready to calm down. She felt “empty” and was exhaustedly disturbed by so many problems her husband’s disobedience created. u/RiverHarris said, “Your husband needs a kick in the a**. He could’ve made your baby sick or worse.” u/AlarmingBar_7107 added, “I 100% get your feelings and I would probably feel the same way.” u/MysticEveClair remarked, “Nah, you’re not overreacting, he straight up ignored you, he did the one thing you explicitly told him not to.”
