Single women answer why they intentionally choose to remain out of relationships — it's actually eye-opening
Women have moved far from the stereotypical and monotonous expectation of marrying at a young age. Many aren’t even anticipating relationships and are simply happy being single. If you have ever asked a female why she chooses to remain single, there would be an interesting response to hear. While some women feel they’re not ready, others are happy to wait for something worthwhile, and still others have unique reasons that are highly relatable. u/CrypticWeirdo9105 asked women to share why they have made a conscious choice to remain single, and the responses are worth considering and exploring. “Women who stay single purposefully - what's the reason behind it and how's life been since you made the decision?” the post read.
1. At peace, finally!
Sharing different views and noteworthy perspectives, single women pointed out many factors. Many shared that they believed in focusing on themselves instead of deliberately looking for someone. u/idnar35 wrote, “I just got out of a relationship and I was so stressed and lonely during a lot of it. I feel relieved and at peace now that I’m only worrying about myself.” u/Mistygrl175 remarked, “It's just way too peaceful being single to easily give up. I don't have to worry about another person’s feelings or opinions and know the goals I'm working towards can't be derailed by anyone but me.”
2. Better mental health is always a win
Still others had even more serious outlooks considering their quality of life and mental health. u/grainmharduit said, “I don’t ever want to build a life with someone and invest and be destroyed again. I hate being alone, but it’s better than being used and abused.” Another u/user insightfully shared, “I noticed I tend to feel more lonely in a relationship than I do when I’m single. I love too hard and the men I’ve dated don’t reciprocate. It’s like they just don’t care. And it’s hard to find guys that are serious. I’d much rather just enjoy myself and my peace because men play too much.” The list doesn’t end here. There are ample reasons why women have made the thoughtful decision to remain single rather than pursue a relationship.
3. Feeling exhausted
A few also pointed out that they prefer freedom over the exhaustion of dating the wrong person. u/SleepFlower80 wrote, “I’ve never been as happy in a relationship as I have when I’m single. I prefer peace, not having to compromise on anything, freedom. I can truly focus on my most favorite person ever - me.” u/cocoacolaloco added, “I guess you could say it’s purposeful because I don’t want to be with just anyone. I’m looking for someone I’m really excited about and compatible with.” u/thebluntdutchess pointed out, “I want to focus on personal growth and goal-setting. I need a breather. Romance is exhausting when it’s not with the right person.”
4. Lack of connection and mental satisfaction
To add to this, women want something special, something truly designed just for them rather than a trendy flow. u/ChaunceTime wrote, “I'm comfortable. The last few times I've gotten out of that comfort zone, it's been chaotic. It would take an instant connection for me to willingly disturb the peace I have now.” u/user added, “I decided to take a year off, and honestly, I’ve been a lot better for it. I feel more independent. I feel like I have a better sense of self.” While the list of reasons is endless, a majority of women ultimately pointed out that they prefer their peace and comfort over a relationship any day.
This article originally appeared 2 months ago.