Bride refused to invite her best friend's husband to her wedding, so she responded in the only way she felt right
In quite a few instances, a person has to stand up for themselves, even if it ruffles a few feathers. One woman was also forced to do it when her husband was not invited to her best friend's wedding. The said friend had been her maid of honor and shared a cordial relationship with the husband. The man was also looking forward to attending the celebration. So the couple was stunned when the wedding invite arrived only for the woman, according to the woman's Reddit post, where she goes by u/maybaby0501.
The woman wondered if she was wrong for being upset because her husband was not invited to her best friend's Las Vegas wedding. "I’m just really confused and honestly hurt. My friend, who was literally my maid of honor at my wedding, is having her wedding in Vegas. I got the invite and it was just to me. No husband, no +1, nothing." She was even more surprised because her husband shared a good relationship with the friend's fiancé and all of them were around each other often. "I don't understand why my husband is suddenly not included." She added, "When I asked her about it, she basically said they're being 'selective' with spouses in general. But it still feels really personal."
The woman clarified that it had hurt her feelings, but she was dismissed. "Just, 'I didn't think this would bother you' and she mentioned I've gone on trips without my husband before? Which isn't the same at all."The woman felt "weird" about going to Vegas by herself for someone who didn't want her husband there. "But now I'm worried I'm overreacting." She went on, "She explained it's an intimate wedding, mostly family and a few close friends and emphasized that no one is getting a plus-one, not even the groom's mom and she won't make exceptions." The woman pointed out that she would have felt much more open to discussion if things had been clarified before the save-the-date cards went out.
"My husband genuinely thought he was invited and was looking forward to the event and the trip." She continued, "I've been honest about how this made me feel. I told her I'm done debating it and now I'm seriously questioning whether I'll attend at all." People supported the woman's stand in the comments section of the post. u/Select_Draw3385 wrote, "'Sorry, I can't make it. I have to be selective about how I spend my money and free time.' I wouldn't go if my husband weren't invited. It's not like you can ever spend couple time with them again after they slighted your husband. The friendship is basically over anyway."
u/Sad_Source3052 commented, "I would tell her something like: Sorry, 'friend,' but I don't feel comfortable coming to Vegas and your wedding alone and since you did not invite my hubby, I will need to decline. I wish you the best wedding and I regret not being able to attend." u/ethelmertz623 remarked, "You're not overreacting at all. She's asking you to come and honor her commitment while she completely disrespects yours." u/chicagok8 shared, "You have every right to be hurt and to decline the invitation. I wouldn't go and I'd start to step away from the friendship."
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