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Man proudly shared the 'test' he pulls on first dates when a woman orders — she paid for her salad and walked away

The odd test on the very first date left the woman surprised, but she felt relieved that she understood the man’s behavior early on.
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(L) Man smiling proudly at woman on a date. (R) Person taking salad to-go. (Representative Cover Image Source: Pexels| L - Katerina Holmes, R - cottonbro studio)
(L) Man smiling proudly at woman on a date. (R) Person taking salad to-go. (Representative Cover Image Source: Pexels| L - Katerina Holmes, R - cottonbro studio)

First dates often bring to light small habits and opinions that are important to know. A woman recently shared an experience from a dinner date that started normally, with a casual chat, but later included a strange judgment from her date. A Threads user who goes by (@princesslondn) shared the post on September 1, 2025, and described how the man proudly mentioned a "test" he uses on first dates when women order food. The details of the ruthless method left no room for thinking. She paid for her salad and simply walked away after the interaction. 

She explained that she was at a restaurant with the man and ordered a salad as a regular meal. He noticed her order and reacted with surprise, saying, “Wow, you actually ordered something.” She calmly responded that they were at a restaurant, which made eating feel natural to her. But then he revealed his intention behind the remark. He said she had "failed the test," which he uses to judge women on first dates. "Most girls know you don't eat on a first date," he confidently said. The rule felt less like the latter and more like a stereotype or an unfair imposition. Rather than continue the conversation or argue, she chose to end the date in a calm way. She paid for her salad, asked for it to go, and left the restaurant quietly.

Man smiles as he looks at date in restaurant. (Representative Image Source: Pexels| Jep Gambardella)
Man smiles as he looks at his date in the restaurant. (Representative Image Source: Pexels| Jep Gambardella)

The story gained attention online as people reacted to the idea of a silent "test" when it comes to dating. Some felt open communication would prevent such awkward moments, while others clearly dismissed the man's approach of tests on a first date. @margaretdeleon2023 commented, "That’s not a thing. You go to a restaurant. You order food." @chrisc6011 wrote, "So he went into the date wanting to 'test' you? And if you’re not supposed to eat, then why go to a restaurant? Some boys should just stay home and not date." @dawngravunder remarked, "Who goes to a restaurant and doesn't order food? Should have told him he failed for being a jerk." 

A young woman paying the bill in a restaurant. (Representative Image Source: Getty Images | Photo by 10'000 Hours)
A young woman is paying the bill in a restaurant. (Representative Image Source: Getty Images | Photo by 10'000 Hours)

Lacking honesty and playing tricks on a first date can ruin a potentially good connection. This is what another woman experienced when she went on an expensive date with a man she met on Instagram. She shared how the evening seemed fine at first, but things changed when an $85k bill arrived. He suddenly said he had forgotten his wallet. He then revealed it was a test to see if she was a “gold digger.” She paid the bill and replied, “A provider woman provides for a king, not a man who lies about his wallet to play games,” making it clear she would not accept such behavior. After that, she blocked him and ended all contact immediately. The best way to get to know someone is to have an upfront and honest conversation with them, not use unusual and cruel methods disguised as "tests." 

For more interesting content on dating and lifestyle, follow @princesslondn on Threads.

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