Mom has bold response to ‘selfish’ partner who contributed nothing to joint household in 9 years
Trigger Warning: This article contains details of abuse that may be distressing to readers.
When partners decide to live together, the effort and love to make a house a home needs to be mutual. Couples need to make adjustments and contribute to the best of their capacity to make things work. A woman who goes by u/Soft-Square8929 shared what she had to go through with an incompetent partner who refused to commit or contribute to household chores. After realizing it was a persistent issue, she had a spot-on response to render. The woman revealed that she’d been with her partner for nine years and that he hadn’t ever contributed to anything.
“He has never paid a single bill or household expense. He contributes nothing financially, emotionally or practically to our household,” she mentioned. She added that she was responsible for paying every single bill and expense, including the needs of the kids. “He doesn’t parent or help with childcare in any way. Instead, he argues with our kids like they’re grown men in a pub,” she explained. She added that even as a human being, the man was "stressful and miserable.” “He’s selfish, constantly plays the victim and is only interested in himself,” she complained. The woman mentioned that her partner was earning but never invested in his family and home.
“He’s never bought a birthday or Christmas present for anyone—not even a card. Every time I try to address these issues, he promises to change but nothing ever improves,” she noted. After constant interaction and discussion in vain, the man would only play the victim and demean her. Putting up with this ridiculous behavior, the woman was done and decided to put her foot down. “I can’t waste another year of my life living in this hell. I know being a single mother would be easier than staying with someone who contributes nothing and makes our home so unhappy,” she explained. Ultimately, it was decided to leave the man before the holidays and despite feeling guilty, the woman took the stern decision.
In an update, she revealed, “He's gone, I've told him to leave, told him I don't ever wish to see him again. That he's on his own.” She added, “He was abusive in many ways— psychically and emotionally. He would use my post-natal depression, stating he would tell people I am mentally unstable, he even tried to contact my doctor saying I was mentally unstable the last time I tried to get rid of him,” the woman explained.
There were even worse things he’d do, misusing their relationship and it was only right that the woman chose to separate. Several people applauded and supported the woman’s decision. u/millymollymel said, “Just think about how much easier your life will be without this deadweight holding you back.” u/NoTruth8492 added, “You should’ve kicked him out way sooner. But while the best time was months ago, the second best time is right now! get him out!” u/readerowl noted, “Holidays mean nothing to this man, so it doesn't matter what time of year it is. Dump him!” u/caffeinejunkie123 remarked, “You should have kicked him out a lot sooner. Enjoy your Christmas in peace!”