Parent coach highlights '5 times parents should put down their phones' and it's receiving applause: 'Guess what? They love it'

Our world has become so technologically advanced that everything is done with the use of mobile phones and other electronic devices. Parents are using their mobiles even while caring for their kids as a mode of entertainment, distraction or even to help with parenting. However, this is doing more damage to the child than you might think. A parent coach and mom named Fadekemi–who goes by @modernmumsees.ng on TikTok–revealed that there are 5 times when parents should steer clear from using their phones. Several parents have tried this method and appreciate the guidance while noting their kids love the face-to-face interaction. 

1. When your child wakes up in the morning 

“When you see your child for the first time in the morning, drop your phone,” the mom said. She added that parents should let their eyes “light up” with the presence of their kids. “The way we react to seeing them now is the way they will see themselves when they grow up,” the coach noted. She mentioned that when kids see their parents’ faces light up, their confidence is automatically boosted.

2. When you’re getting separated 

Fadekemi noted that when parents are departing for work or sending kids off to school, they need to be off their phones and maintain in-person communication. “Whatever you say to them now sticks with them throughout the day,” she explained. She suggested using that time to express good and positive things to one’s child. 

3. When you unite 

Just like it’s important to bid your child goodbye, it is equally important to welcome them happily when they return. The mom mentioned that when kids see their parents’ eyes “light up” on their return, it makes a positive difference. 

4. When you’re eating 

Fadekemi noted a crucial point—“What you do is what your child will pick up.” She explained that family time, like having meals together, is important to connect and if parents are going to be on their phones, they’re going to send the wrong message. “They’re watching you. What is the behavior you want your child to see?” she asked. 

5. When they’re about to go to bed

Another essential time for parents to put down their phones is before their kids go to bed. The coach mentioned that this time, too, is one to “connect.” The mom suggested reviewing the day with one’s child. “Go through the day, maybe you’ve been angry with them, maybe something happened at school,” the mom said. She added that even if it’s a matter of as few as 5 minutes, the child needs to connect with their parents. “Don’t let your child go to bed without connecting,” she remarked. 

Fadekemi’s advice was a reality check for many parents. Others have already tried the recommendations of the parent coach. They were surprised at how much it improved the quality of their parent-child bond. @norahtee_conept said, “I always hug and kiss them on the forehead. Guess what? They love it and respond with a smile.” @growwitheva added, “I’ve been doing this and it feels good.” @monsoratyusuf37 remarked, “I do smile when she wakes up and it really helps.”

You can follow Fadekemi (@modernmumsees.ng) on TikTok for more content on parenting.