People are revealing 10 'incredibly small' yet impactful things someone did that made them instantly more attractive

An individual's behavior, etiquette and even small things about their personality can instantly make them stand out in the crowd. Sometimes, it is not the big house or the branded shoes that make an impression but rather their character, a joke, a helping hand or even a word of encouragement that strikes a chord with others. Jess Alderson, co-founder of the dating app "So Syncd," noted that the app requires users to share personality traits for compatibility. It was found that 90% preferred personality over looks, per BBC News. Something as simple as showing availability through a smile, being open-minded and listening to others proved to be more attractive to people, per Science of People.

Similarly, when u/Honeydrizzelx66 asked, "What’s something incredibly small someone did that made them instantly more attractive to you?" With over 400 responses, people on Reddit spilled the beans on simple yet impactful things that left an indelible mark on others, causing them to have newfound respect and appreciation towards that person. Whether it is with a partner, friend, coworker or any relationship, these 10 impressive pointers top the list and can be easily added to your personality to get those plus points.   

1. Helping animals

"I was sitting outside with a guy and he saw this little beetle bug on its back waving its legs in the air. He grabbed a leaf and put it right side up." -u/TRIGMILLION. "My fiancée saw an earthworm struggling to cross the sidewalk. She just picked it up and put it on the grass where it looked like it was trying to go." -u/loser_partner

2. 'Incidental respect' 

"Showing incidental integrity and respect towards a person they don’t know and will never see again." -u/Deep-Recording-4593 "This. We were with our friends and their kids. I didn’t notice what was happening- my husband said, 'I’m gonna get this for this kid.' In line was a mom and son who didn’t speak good English. The kid wanted a Pokemon, but didn’t have enough prize points. My husband just went ahead and swiped our card for it. I fell head over heels in that moment. We’ve been together 21 years and moments like this remind me I married a good man." -u/CuriousVampireCat

3. Etiquette

"Manners, a man with good manners. Not even big things, but holding or opening the door, being polite to staff in stores or shops, saying please and thank you and just noticing things. It's an instant hit for me." -u/Not-That_Girl  "Hung up my coat for me and was polite to the food service worker on our first date. The bar is so low, but these little gestures made such a difference." -u/Psychedup311

4. Thoughtfulness and wisdom

"I don't know if it was really small, but he put some real effort into giving good, thoughtful support and advice to a shared friend who had asked for it. At that moment, my view of him changed from 'he's nice, but it's good that he's busy a lot or else he'd be a little much' to 'I can't get enough of his company and I'll make him a priority.'" -u/Random_Silly_name

5. Listening

"He listened to hear me not just to respond, I have never felt seen and heard like that before." -u/Sickly_Victorian "I'm surprised that 'listened' isn't mentioned more here. It's what I thought of, too. Just had a conversation and the person was seemingly interested in what I had to say or was at least entertained enough by my being happy that someone would let me babble (case in point)." -u/ok_lari

6. Empathy

"While going through airport security, I observed my boyfriend helping out a frazzled lady struggling with an infant. His observation of her struggle, empathy for her situation and the way he helped out like it was the most obvious thing to do made him shine. He’s now the father of my toddler and we have another one on the way." -u/Nifty_Thrifty "We were walking home from the bar late, a homeless guy came up to our group to ask for money. One of my friends walked up to the man, introduced himself and shook his hand. Recognizing the humanity in a man down on his luck." -u/AuthorMuch58097

7. Honesty

"Being honest and candid. When asked about how one is doing or what one likes, not giving a cookie-cutter answer, but being vulnerable to give real information is an incredible energy." -u/NakedNectar

8. Kind observation

"On our first date, noticed that my feet didn't touch the chair-rest. (I'm short and we were at a high-top bar). I kept hitting his boots and apologizing. After the second time, he said, 'No need to apologize, I noticed that your feet are dangling and it must hurt your legs and be uncomfortable, you can rest them on my boots if you would like, I put them there so you can reach.' It was the sweetest thing in that moment." u/ANValentine89

9. Consideration

"He was a complete stranger, but wanted to talk to me. So, he introduced himself by telling me his full government name, where he worked and what college he went to. It made him super easy to Google and see his socials, LinkedIn, etc. He wanted my attention and contact information, but considered my comfort so he made it easy for me to vet him and feel safer revealing things about myself and giving him my number/socials. I admire men with good social skills and actual consideration about how it might feel to be a woman being pursued." -u/Connie_Damico

10. Noticing and acting

"'I know the conversation derailed a bit, but you were in the middle of telling a story, can I hear the rest?' I fell for him hard and fast. No one had ever made me feel heard that way." -u/Livingsatellite "Stopped me after I interrupted someone. He let them finish, then asked me what I was about to say. Simple kindness was so attractive." -u/berripluscream