Psychologist shares 'great' tips on improving relations with a tween without saying anything — it's resonating with parents

Parents might find it difficult to communicate and connect with their children as they turn into tweens or teenagers and go through transitions in their life. At that time, the person might not get along with their child just by talking. So, a psychologist has a method that might help a person connect with their children better. The woman, Dr. Lucie Hemmen, who goes by @dr.luciehemmen on TikTok, took to the platform and asked parents to do things that would show their love for their teenager.

Dr. Hemmen shared that if a person has a difficult relationship with their kid and talking has become very "fraught and unsuccessful" one can use non-verbal ways to communicate with them. Some of the tips that the psychologist shared included, "Clip a flower from your yard, or somebody else's yard, put it in a vase and place it in your teenager's room." She added, "When you are picking them up from sports practice or SATs or just another harrowing day, you can have a snack that is ready to go. When they sit in the car exhausted and irritable, they feel that love from you." A parent that the woman knew had made it a practice to run a bubble bath for her daughter when she came home from volleyball practice.

"They weren't getting along at all but that gesture communicated something and softened their connection," the psychologist revealed. Another dad she knew would wait for his son to get into the shower in the morning and then he would go into the boy's room and make his bed for him. "This is a small gesture and a lot of boys may not notice, but this son really did. He actually gave his dad feedback and said that it made him feel calmer to see his bed made." The woman wanted to highlight that these small gestures can show a teenager that even if things are difficult between them and their parents, they still love them. "You are anticipating things that'll make their day easier and that you care." She wondered if people had anymore ideas to share for the same.

People took to the comments section of the video to share their thoughts on the method. @carolynstamp1 wrote, "Write a letter to them and leave some space for them to write back if they wish. Or a diary type thing. Teens may not be comfortable saying certain things out loud but they might be able to write them." @swimtipsforparents commented, "I awlays have a snack ready for my teens when I go pick them up- they love it. Sometimes it is small and sometimes I go through Starbucks for them. They light up every time."

@gabbyb remarked, "Such a great advice...I wish I had heard this when my son was a teen. Although I was blessed that we have a great relationship. Maybe I did do the other things right." @nickycole shared, "Those are such sweet ideas. Teen life is terribly high pressure these days and it seems like teens need our support more than ever." @lindseyrae expressed, "Just like us, they can get overwhelmed with messy spaces. Randomly cleaning their room or detailing their vehicle can help relieve some of that anxiety and help them become more productive."

You can follow Dr. Lucie Hemmen (@dr.luciehemmen) on TikTok for more parenting content.