She worried she’d bore her guy best friend with 85 things she did in a day — his response raised the bar for boyfriends everywhere
A casual conversation can sometimes shift the way someone views relationships, setting a new standard altogether. Something similar happened with a TikTok user, Brittany, who shared how a small interaction with her guy best friend raised the bar for the kind of man she wants in her life. The woman posted a video on December 21, 2025, under the handle @brittanyybowen, and explained that her male best friend was the reason she held men to high standards in her personal life. The clip has garnered over 605.1K views.
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In the video, Brittany revealed that he had "taught me a lot," recalling how he casually texted her to ask about her day, a moment that stood out because of how overwhelmed she had been. "I literally did not stop running around," she remarked, explaining that she had been busy from morning till night. Not wanting to burden him with the details, she replied vaguely, "I did 85 things today and I am not even going to bore you with it." However, his response surprised her, which made her realize she needed someone like that in her life. "Give me the details to all 86," he texted back.
That one message, Brittany explained, made her feel genuinely seen and valued. “This is why I love you because you actually care,” she told him, adding that “all the other men just think I’m pretty and don’t give a f***.” She then shared a detailed list of everything she had done that day, starting at 8:15 a.m. What followed only reinforced her feelings. “Each thing I did, he had a question, or he had a statement about every single thing that I did,” she said. “He genuinely cares about my day and what I’m doing.” When she pointed this out to him, his response was simple, “Of course I do,” he replied. “I wouldn’t be talking to you for nothing.”
Brittany contrasted this with her experiences with dating, saying many men reach out without real intention. “A lot of men talk to me for nothing,” she said. They often interrupted her day only to disappear shortly after, she shared. She also praised her best friend for his honesty, saying he never sugarcoats things and is quick to point out when someone’s intentions are not genuine. “He’s going to tell me when someone’s just trying to hit,” she said. Brittany said her friendship has shaped how she views relationships and what she now expects from a future partner.
“He’s taught me what a man should be,” she said, adding that her expectations are “definitely because of him.” At the end of the video, she hoped that because of what she learned, she would “find a good husband.” The video sparked a flood of reactions in the comments, with viewers split on the dynamic.“Girl, that’s your husband,” noted @shiannedp. “Poor guy. Doesn’t realize how friend-zoned he is,” mentioned @matthewa.smith. “Him sitting there waiting for you patiently to get the hint,” @shelan.talibb remarked.
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