Someone posted 'honest dating advice’ list online and it broke the internet for how relatable every tip is
When it comes to dating, there are many dos and don'ts. In the fear of messing up, people try to be as perfect as possible. However, dating is not just about pleasing one’s partner or oneself alone. It is a mutual happening that requires maturity and love from both ends. u/veganjennedy shared a post on Reddit that reveals some striking dating advice. It is a photograph of a paper with remarkable perspectives on dating printed on it in nine points. The pointers consist of advice, each with a bit on the unique perspectives of dating. These nine pieces of dating advice revolve around the idea of a genuine relationship and how it should come from both ends.
1. Worry less about whether they like you, and more about whether you even like them
Planning all those date nights and getting caught up in trying to get the other person to like us, we forget to reflect and check whether our feelings are genuine. This should be the first step to clarify.
2. Rejection is not as personal as it feels
Many times, we assume that we were rejected because we’re not good enough and don’t meet the standards. However, it is quite the opposite. “Liking someone or being liked is more about compatibility than inherent worth,” the post revealed.
3. Stop choosing what isn't choosing you
Reciprocation matters a lot more than you think in a relationship. Or simply put, “If it's not mutual, why pursue it?”
4. Is physical attraction everything?
It is crucial to understand whether feelings are only based on physical aspects or abstract and intangible qualities. The best way to check the same is to honestly “ask yourself if you would be friends with this person if you weren't physically attracted to them?”
5. Commitment on your end
Often, we look for what our partner can give us but forget that dating requires mutual effort. While there are things one would expect from their partner, there should also be clarity on what one can give to their partner. “What unique value do you bring to a partnership?” is one of the suggested introspections.
6. Know what you want from a potential partner
This can help narrow things down much better. Ditch the confusion and ask yourself, “What are your non-negotiables? What are you flexible on?” What should follow is thorough communication about the same.
7. Stop being shocked by repeated behavior
The post shared a vibrant example. “If someone has continuously shown you they aren't a good texter, stop expecting them to be. Notice patterns and believe them,” the post added.
8. You don't need to be perfect to be loved
A common misconception is that one has to be perfect to ace the relationship. But this isn’t true. “We all have flaws and vulnerabilities and being able to own them is one of the most attractive things we can do,” the advice reads. The right person will “embrace and accept” you for the perfectly imperfect person you are!
9. Your love life is one area of your life. Don't forget to nurture the rest.
The advice reads best, “Significant other aside, when you visualize coming home to a life you love, what does that look like? Get specific.”
Each point on the list resonated with people learning new aspects of love every day in today's world. Because of that, the post went viral in no time and many began sharing their personal experiences where the advice fits well. "I like No. 7, especially the example because that's summarizing pretty much me. I'm neither a writer nor a caller. Luckily my boyfriend is the same so we are good. We both don't like texting and calling, but we want to be near each other for most of the week," wrote u/Jiobrady.