Stepmom forcing kids to consider her their ‘true mom’ gets top-notch response from biological mother

When the woman tried to create distance between the birth mom and her kids, she hit back with a confident response.

UPDATED FEB 12, 2025

(L) Boy mom cuddling with sons affectionately. (Representative Cover Image Source: Pexels| Photo by Elina Fairytale), (R) Woman frustrated in a heated argument. (Representative Cover Image Source: Pexels| Photo by Karolina Grabowska)

In many cases where a kid is adopted or is living with step-parents, their heart still goes out to their biological parents who birthed them. A woman, u/InternationalTaro233 on Reddit, revealed that her children, too, had a similar bond with her as she was their biological mother. Unfortunately, the kids' stepmom wasn’t too kind about their relationship and insisted forcefully that the boys consider her as their only mom. To this, the birth mother had an apt response.

Boy mom enjoying bonding time with sons in the kitchen. (Representative Image Source: Pexels| Photo by Jep Gambardella)

The woman explained that she wasn’t married but had two kids with her ex. After they broke up, the duo practiced co-parenting earnestly. However, when the ex got married to another woman, she wanted the kids all to herself. Apart from “not liking” the birth mom, she also disliked the idea of her being linked to the family. “When we met, she called me the kids’ 'other mom' implying she was ‘the mom,’” u/InternationalTaro233 revealed. “She would call them her boys and she said she was a boy mom whenever she was speaking to me. She tried to push my ex back and ordered all communication about them go through her instead of him and when I refused, she told me I didn't have the right,” the biological mom added.

Two women having serious conversation together. (Representative Image Source: Pexels| Photo by Karolina Grabowska)

The stepmother started deliberately making the mom feel insecure and jealous every time she spent time with her husband and stepkids. “She'd text me anywhere from three to five photos and say she had a great day with her husband and her children. I didn't like her attitude toward me,” the woman noted. The birth mom's ex was not supportive of her and sided with his wife. The woman then turned to court, where the judge clearly instructed the stepmom “that she was not the mother of the children and she did not have the right to impersonate me when it came to school or medical settings.” Nevertheless, the stepmom was persistent and forced the kids to believe that she was their only mom.

Woman telling off another woman during argument. (Representative Image Source: Pexels| Photo by Liza Summer)

When things got out of hand, the situation was retaken to court. This time, the judge analyzed the situation and imposed restrictions on the stepmom. “She can't do drop offs of the kids and she can't show up to appointments or school meetings that require both parents,” the post explained. The biological mom was smart to share evidence and even the boys expressing their uncertainty in declaring the stepmother as their mum was enough a victory for the birth mom. She told the stepmom to genuinely follow the court orders. The wife then asked the woman for compassion.

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“I rolled my eyes when she asked me for compassion. I didn't even try to hide it. And I had no sympathy for her,” the birth mom wrote. Several people agreed with her decision to play smart and ensure she got rights to her kids. u/evelivery said, “She can take her ‘boy mom’ energy somewhere else.” u/winterworld561 added, “You are the only mother of the boys. She is clearly insane. She has no rights to your children.”