Therapist flags the biggest sign a marriage is ending — and it always shows up in one partner
A relationship can survive disagreements, but recovering from emotional unavailability is often what creates issues. A relationship counselor, @communicationjon, posted a TikTok video on October 7, 2025, discussing red flags in a marriage. In the clip, he pointed out that emotional indifference between couples is a sign that the relationship is nearing its end. The video received over 107,600 views, and the caption read, “It’s not fighting. It’s not money problems. It’s when one spouse simply stops caring.”
@communicationjon 🚩The #1 Red Flag Your Marriage Is About to End🚩 It’s not fighting. It’s not money problems. It’s when one spouse simply stops caring. When they don’t listen anymore. When communication shuts down. When they start doing whatever they want—without considering their partner’s feelings. Because once someone stops caring, it’s almost impossible to pull them back in. That’s the moment you have to decide: Do you fight for it… or do you finally move on? 🎯 Keywords: marriage red flag, relationship ending, not caring, communication shut down, divorce warning signs, emotional disconnection, marriage advice #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipTips #MarriageCounseling #HealthyRelationships #DivorceSupport #RedFlags #CommunicationMatters ♬ original sound - communicationjon
Explaining the warning signs, the counselor said, “The biggest red flag I see that signals a marriage is going to end is the one spouse just not caring anymore.” Couples stop trying, “and when that happens, it’s hard to pull them back in and make the marriage work.” The video further explains that “not caring” can show up in several ways, but it gradually affects the very foundation of a marriage. “Not caring can mean a lot of different things. It can mean not listening to your spouse. It can mean shutting down.” He shared that when someone emotionally checks out, there's no way to bring them back in; that's when a difficult choice has to be made: “Do you fight for it… or do you finally move on?”
This emotional disconnection often becomes visible when one of the partners starts to prioritize their own needs and wants without thinking about the other person’s desires. The relationship expert said, “And a lot of times, it could just mean doing whatever you want, and not taking into consideration that you’re actually married to someone and that their feelings and their opinions matter too.” The counselor, at the end of the video, suggested that people who might be going through a similar situation or phase must pause and reflect on whether their relationship is still worth saving.
The viral video struck a chord with many viewers, who shared similar experiences or were facing emotional neglect in their own relationships. Resonating with the counselor, @smoke_a_hontass shared, “After years of crying. I don’t care anymore, and it’s my fault because I wanted a divorce.” @schwarberswife shared similar thoughts and said, “I went to counseling while he did nothing. I’m done being the one to put in the work and effort, so now I don’t.” Traveler and explorer @onmywayanne said, “I stopped caring and stopped being considerate,” adding that she tried for many years.
Adults with insecure attachment often find it harder to regulate emotions in relationships, leading to emotional distance, according to a study found in the National Library of Medicine. It highlights that recognizing how attachment insecurity affects emotional regulation is essential for improving personal well-being and building healthier relationships for those who struggle with it.
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