Woman asks if she's wrong after telling boyfriend's 'overbearing' mom to comply with house rule—the internet had her back
Every person has some house rules they would like to follow in their homes. Whether it is no feet on the couch or no dinner in the living room, each is defined by the owner. All in all, these are well-thought-out rules that are set after much consideration. A 20-year-old woman–who goes by u/ellafaith0 on Reddit–shared that she had a particular rule for her new home too. However, when her 24-year-old boyfriend’s mom caused a commotion by being asked to adhere to the rule, it resulted in an unpleasant consequence. The woman wondered if she was in the wrong, but the internet had her back.
The post mentioned that the woman had been in a relationship with her boyfriend for around 2 years. The duo live together and the woman was not delighted with his mom’s behavior. “His mother is very involved in his life (some might say overbearing, but I try to be respectful),” she noted. She added that she would often “push boundaries while acting like she means well.” When the mom was asked to comply with the rule, she tried to use similar tactics and became more "upset." “I have a ‘no shoes in the house’ rule,” the woman mentioned. The whole idea was for the sake of cleanliness and her boyfriend and others had always accepted and abided by the rule.
Unfortunately, the mom “refused” to listen. “She claims that it’s ‘rude to ask guests to take their shoes off’ and that it makes her feel ‘disrespected,’” the woman recalled. The woman explained to his mom that there was a logical and valid reason behind the rule and that she was not the only one asked to comply. Nevertheless, she remained persistent. “Last weekend she came over and surprise, surprise, walked in with her shoes on,” the post revealed. The woman “politely” asked, “Can you take them off please?” However, the mom got agitated and hesitant. “She kinda huffs and is like, ‘You’re really gonna make me do this?’”
Despite her unnecessary and dull attitude, the woman insisted she take off her shoes. “I just stood there waiting. She sighs dramatically, takes them off and spends the whole visit sulking,” she said. The woman was upset to receive a text from her boyfriend’s dad stating, “I made her cry and she feels like I’m ‘trying to assert dominance’ over her in her son’s home.” The woman noted that it was their home and not just his and was relieved that her boyfriend was on her side. “But now his parents are acting like I’ve disrespected the Queen of England,” she said before asking whether she was really in the wrong.
People came to her support and assured her that maintaining boundaries and house rules, as simple as such, is in no way negative. u/Kin-ethra said, “She is going out of her way to guilt you into letting her disrespect your home.” u/Ok-Complex3019 joked, “If this is her hill to die on, get those little booties that cable guys wear inside a house.” u/apothekryptic added, “Don't put up with it from any of them.”