Woman thought first date was going perfectly — until one question about his ex revealed a truth that made her run away
First dates tend to go well as they are meant to be a simple attempt to get to know the other. For a Threads user, Ashley Ahrens (@ahrensam), however, things were different. The woman was out on a date with a man with whom she was bonding well. However, when she asked him about the longest relationship he ever had, his response completely threw her off. Sharing the story with Threads users on Monday, May 11, 2026, the woman revealed how his one response made her run for the hills.
Ashley went on a first date with a "fine-looking, charming" man with whom she shared great chemistry. After chatting for an hour, she asked what his "longest " relationship was. He revealed to her that he was in a seven-year-long situationship with a woman, whom he did not date because he wanted to "experience other women." Ashley stared at him for a moment before asking him if she was the love of his life. He took a moment to reply and agreed that she was indeed the love of his life, but since she had been married for two years, he wished to move on. However, when she asked, "If she got divorced tomorrow, would you try to be with her?" his response made her immediately want to leave. He responded, saying, "Possibly."
"I took my loaf of sourdough that I bought from the coffee shop and skedaddled so fast because I know you aren't about to waste any more of my time," she wrote. She noted that she would now only be interested in dating men who have truly moved on from their exes. According to a report published in Psychology Today, rushing into a new relationship after a breakup can lead to people being unable to connect with themselves. "Very often, when people go back to their old partner, they are not going back because of love; they are going back to what is familiar. They return to old patterns, old behaviors, the same dynamics that were hard to break before. Even if it was painful," the study noted.
Despite the woman being married for two years, he still calls her the love of his life. This statement was enough to convince Ashley to leave. He went on to explain that he was still in contact with her and had spoken to her last in January. It raised immediate red flags. Soon after her post went viral, many online users chimed in to share their thoughts. @varjak.oz wrote, "The saddest part is that if she divorced tomorrow, he would totally try his luck again." @geneva_newlifewhoisthis commented, "I was reading this hoping you left because he may commit to you, but he will hate you for every part of you that reminds him you’re not her." @strange_and_unusuall said, "Thank you for reminding me why I’ve stayed single and happy for nine years."
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