Grandparents brilliantly explain why the 'older generation' should happily follow rules set by their children

Being a grandparent is a nostalgic experience like no other. It gives parents the opportunity to relive their moments with a version of their kids. However, what many forget is that the title of a grandparent is different from that of a parent. This means there will be different roles and responsibilities with the latter at the forefront. Parents tend to set rules for others, including grandparents, to follow in the best interests of their children. It may seem unorthodox but grandparents Marty and Nikki (@martyandnikki) point out why it’s a good idea to follow them diligently.

The grandma noted that every family has its own way of functioning. Nevertheless, she pointed out a few things that have been working for her family. The woman referred to comments highlighting how grandparents get caught up with pampering or parenting kids and offered her insight on the topic. “‘What happens in grandma’s house stays in grandma’s house’ — no, we don’t do that here,” she remarked. Nikki noted that the idea of “not following all the rules” set by parents is a big no. She added that she follows all of her daughter’s rules with a perspective like no other. 

While most grandparents think they’re being bossed around, Nikki noted, “My most favorite part about being Gigi is that I don’t have to make the rules.” "We went through decades of having to worry about what they eat, what they wore, where they went to school, their grades," she explained, adding that it is a relieving delight to not have to worry about it all anymore. "Somebody else is doing the heavy lifting so when my daughter comes and says she wants things done a certain way—‘yes ma'am,’" she remarked. The grandpa couldn’t help but chuckle and agree with his wife. The duo seemed stoked that they were handed down the guide instead of having to brainstorm and get through when it comes to their grandkids.

Nikki also mentioned how many dislike the idea of babysitting their grandkids. Marty interrupted, “I don’t like babysitting but I love to spend time with my grandchildren.” Nikki added, “The older generation, this is for you - These are your kids,” she said. The woman explained that as parents it is a duty to stand by one’s kids not just until they’re 18 but for life. “They need a break and I’m here to help until they take their last breath. Those are my kids and I don’t want them to be stressed," she noted. The duo focused more on the abstract reasoning behind dealing with adult kids and their babies instead of looking at the responsibilities as chores. 

Nikki pointed out, “Those are my kids and I don’t want them to feel lonely or burnt out. So if they need a break, bring on the other kids.” Lastly, the grandma shared a message, “To the older generation—stop it. Stop it and do not be a**holes to your daughter-in-law.” @liberty510 noted, “Being a grandparent is a privilege. I do everything they ask because it is important to my child and grandchild.” @trician1387 added, “As a family therapist, this is such a healthy, loving and respectful approach.”

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