Her boyfriend asked if he could post on social media about his ex-girlfriend who passed away — her response won the internet’s heart
Sometimes, even a caring partner can kill a relationship when insecurity seeps in. Threads user Alisa Kasmer (@kazzzmer) shared an interaction with her boyfriend after he brought up a sensitive topic involving his ex-girlfriend, who had passed away after Kasmer began dating him. He asked her whether she would be okay with him posting about her, and her response surprised him. Sharing the story with her Threads followers on Wednesday, April 22, 2026, the woman revealed her answer, which has now earned immense praise from internet users.
Kasmer explained that her boyfriend had previously been in a relationship with a woman who passed away about a year after they started dating. Although he had never publicly posted about his ex before, he felt the need to honor her memory online and wanted to be considerate of Kasmer's feelings before doing so. When he asked her how she would feel about it, Kasmer told him she would not find it strange at all and even encouraged him to honor her memory whenever he felt moved to do so. "The insecurity required to think otherwise is genuinely staggering," she wrote.
According to a report published by Healthy Place, insecurity is one of the foremost reasons that kill relationships. "One reason for the fear of the relationship ending is an overwhelming sense of inadequacy, reinforcing the insecurity," the report noted. It also added, "Imagined situations and worst-case scenarios can plague someone day and night." On most occasions, people expect their partners to go no contact with their ex-partners.
Although it can be a sign of setting healthy boundaries, there can be exceptions, as seen in Kasmer's case. While her partner never contacted his ex, he wanted to honor his late ex-girlfriend; beyond their past, he wished to pay his respects to the person he once knew. Kasmer respected and understood that, showing how a partner can avoid unnecessary insecurities and build trust, paving the way for a healthy relationship. Kasmer's post received a lot of appreciation from internet users, who praised her maturity.
Many users praised the boyfriend for being honest and respectful by seeking permission. @old_lady_mac mentioned, "The fact that he asked is how you know he’s one of the good ones." @jerrylambertbooks commented, "I think it would be so much more weird to date someone who completely forgot their partner after they died." @taelorjae_ wrote, "My ex passed away in February, and I would've been devastated (and also gone) had someone I'm dating told me not to express those emotions." @jtawesome7475 remarked, "I’m glad he gets to remember his ex with fondness."
For more such inspiring and heartwarming stories on relationships, follow @kazzzmer on Threads.
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