Man called his plus-size date 'beautiful' and insisted it was a compliment — but the bartender gasped when he finished the offensive sentence
Dating is rarely simple, even under the best circumstances. For people whose bodies fall outside the narrow beauty standards society continues to celebrate, the experience can come with an extra layer of scrutiny. The frustration often extends beyond the comment itself. Some people genuinely fail to recognize why their words are hurtful. TikTok user Myrica, who goes by @myricag, shared one such dating experience on October 12, 2025. A promising evening at a local pub soon turned into a story she would never forget, thanks to one astonishing comment her date made about her plus-size body and an unexpected witness who silently confirmed just how inappropriate it really was.
@myricag Dating as a fattie is wild af am I right??? #storytime #justfatgirlthings #bigbacked #iamreclaimingthetermbigback #men ♬ Manchild - Sabrina Carpenter
During the date, everything appeared to be going well. The pair was chatting comfortably and enjoying each other's company when the man suddenly announced that he wanted to say something. Looking directly at Myrica, he told her she was "so pretty for a big girl." The backhanded remark left her stunned, but the most telling reaction came from elsewhere in the room. Behind him stood the bartender, who happened to overhear the exchange. As soon as the comment landed, the bartender locked eyes with Myrica and visibly recoiled in horror. That brief reaction instantly validated what Myrica was feeling.
Rather than apologizing, the man doubled down. When Myrica explained that his comment was offensive, he insisted he had simply called her pretty and could not understand why she was upset. The discussion quickly turned into an argument, with him attempting to convince her that she should view the remark as praise. Having had enough, the creator excused herself and retreated to the bathroom, choosing to stay there until she was certain he had left the pub. Fortunately, the story did not end entirely on a sour note. The bartender later approached her, expressed sympathy for the awkward encounter, and offered her a free margarita. After one of the worst dates imaginable, that small act of kindness became the evening's unexpected highlight.
Many viewers said Myrica's experience was far from a one-off bad encounter, sharing similar stories of their own. @saharapaws recounted, "I once had a guy tell me (plus size) and my friend (petite body) that if he could put my head on her body, you’d have a perfect woman, and genuinely thought he’d given the best compliment." While @vtx1800biker mentioned, "I get that compliment from women all the time. 'You’re so handsome for a bigger guy.'" @sonyajh869 added, "The mansplaining why you are wrong for being offended! Wow!"
Myrica's experience reflects a broader issue that many plus-size women know all too well. According to the Obesity Action Coalition, women report weight discrimination at significantly higher rates than men and often encounter stigma at lower levels of excess weight. Those attitudes frequently follow them into the dating world, where assumptions about attractiveness can surface in subtle and not-so-subtle ways.
Research supports this reality. A 2023 systematic review of weight stigma in romantic relationships found that weight criticism from partners was among the most commonly studied forms of relationship-based stigma. In that context, the comment Myrica received felt less like an isolated misstep and more like part of a larger pattern. Perhaps the moral of the story is that many people will encounter similar moments at least once in their lives. Sometimes, a small act of empathy from a stranger leaves a far greater impression than all the words spoken by the person sitting across the table.
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