Woman has mic-drop response when entitled boyfriend stops mid-dinner to demean her with 'relationship performance review'

One of the most important aspects of a relationship is respect. If a partner has no respect for their significant other, nothing else will make up for it in the long run. Each relationship has its unique aspects and pros and cons. However, having mutual acknowledgment and communication about the same should be a priority. A woman who goes by u/shi420 on Reddit shared an appalling experience she had with her boyfriend. The man began to randomly give her a “relationship performance review,” treating her like someone or something meant to please him. Disgusted by this ridicule, she gave him a sassy response.

The woman revealed that her boyfriend and she had been living together. She added that he had a few cons and bad habits, one of them being extreme particularness towards things. However, she would often overlook the same out of love. “Recently, he’s been on this kick about ‘optimizing’ our life or whatever,” the woman noted. She explained that he was driven by the internet and some theories of “value and ROI” in a relationship. The boyfriend began getting ahead of himself and randomly abrupted their dinner time to discuss a bizarre idea. “I think we need to have a performance review for our relationship,” he suggested to his partner. The woman was confused but the man kept insisting. 

“He says it’s like at a job, where you check in and see if things are going well or need improvement. I honestly thought he was joking, so I laughed. Big mistake,” she recalled. The woman was appalled to see her boyfriend pull out an entire folder with papers regarding the ridiculous discussion. Moreover, he went on to cite a long list of “improvements” she needed. “This man wrote up a whole list of stuff I need to ‘improve on’ like I’m a bad employee or something,” she remarked. The list included trivial things like "inconsistency in gym attendance, slacking on cooking meals” and so on. One of the "reviews" was, "You don’t fold my socks the right way, which shows a lack of attention to detail." The woman was agitated and asked whether he was serious about a "performance review.” 

The man assured her that she did not need to take the same personally and that it was only so they could “give 100%” in the relationship. “So I ask, ‘Where’s your performance review?’ And he blinks at me and says, ‘Well, I don’t think that’s necessary because I’m already doing a lot,’” she wrote. Baffled and ticked off by his recklessness, the woman snapped at her boyfriend, resulting in an argument. She cleared things out saying, “I’m your girlfriend, not your employee. And if you want 100%, maybe try being a 100% boyfriend first" and threw the report in the trash. Unable to take the reality of the situation, the man was upset and said she was “emotional” and “not open to constructive criticism.” 

She added, “Now he’s barely speaking to me and says I embarrassed him by overreacting. His best friend said I should’ve ‘heard him out’ because it’s a ‘unique approach’ to a relationship.” In an edit, she mentioned that she ultimately broke up with the man. People applauded the woman for her decision and reaction to avert the man’s manipulation and absurdity. u/Zomgiehealthy2616 suggested, “Since he is so lacking, you are moving on and finding a better ROI on your time, attention and affection.” u/redditexploerer787 wrote, “You’re not the jerk but your boyfriend is. Maybe you should have thrown him out with the report.”