Man looking for marriage on dating app asked his match if she's a 'submissive woman' — her honest response ended the chat
The kind of questions a person asks can say a lot about their personality. That was the case in a story shared by a Threads user, Brenda, under the username @theankaraqueen on Monday, August 3, 2026. The woman revealed that her sister was texting a match, and during the initial stages of getting to know each other, he casually asked whether she was a "submissive woman." The simple and honest reply led to an unexpected outcome.
According to the screenshots, the exchange began with both individuals discussing their expectations. They agreed they were both looking for marriage and also shared that neither of them had been married before nor had any children. The conversation then changed direction when the man asked, "Are you a submissive woman?" Her reply was simple: "I don't know what that means." After that message, the chat ended abruptly. Brenda shared the screenshots with the caption, "This is how my sister's latest dating app conversation started and ended within 5 minutes. Was she wrong?"
What the man's understanding of "submissive" was remained unclear. However, the woman wanted no part in it. The only good outcome was that she was able to conclude that their values, expectations, and mindsets didn't match, and ended the conversation without wasting time. Many internet users supported her response, while criticizing the guy. @lavraimlle.dube wrote, "I think he just told her that he was an abusive man. She didn't lose anything. The garbage took itself out." @vampiresuccubus13 pointed out, "He doesn't want someone submissive; he wants someone to control." @pam.de.sal03 commented, "He wanted someone to manipulate, and that isn’t your sister. Glad she dodged a bullet." It is important to show confidence while dealing with such unexpected encounters. In another incident, a woman shared how she handled an uncomfortable moment during a date after the man openly described the type of partner he wanted.
He told her that he preferred a “submissive woman,” which made her question what he actually meant by that. Instead of ignoring the comment, she asked him to explain his idea and decided to address the issue directly. Her date revealed that he wanted someone who would listen, avoid arguments, and follow his lead. Hearing his response, she asked whether he was searching for a partner who had no personality or opinions of their own. Her question immediately changed the mood of the conversation, and she noticed his confidence disappear. She then ended the date, telling him she was glad she understood his expectations early. A person’s view on relationships can become clear through simple interactions, and it's better to have these discussions early on to avoid disappointment and confusion.
For more dating stories, follow @theankaraqueen on her Threads account.